Your Beautiful Child with Shane B. Kulman MS SpEd

 

Shane:
I was listening to your show on Contact Talk Radio this morning and you were commenting about some of the looks parents receive from people who do not understand when their autistic child gets "out there" while in public. So I want to share with you a funny story that was told to me.

My daughter Maria is 10 years old and she is a high functioning autistic with an intellectual disability. She loves music, drawing and coloring. And she participates in several extra curricular activities with other children with special needs. But there are times when she has her meltdowns in public due to too much stimulation. One day, I happen to mention this to another parent and this is what he told me. 

He said he knew a parent that had an autistic child and when the child would have the public meltdowns, the parent would put on a hat that said: "My child is autistic. What's your excuse?" I thought that this was really an amazing way to get people to understand about autistic children. I thought it was funny, too. I don't have a hat, but I don't mince words when I receive those looks from people who don't understand what's happening. I tell them that "My child is autistic." I have also learned to just ignore people who give me "the look." If they have a problem with my child or they can't deal with it, it's their problem not mine. I think that some people live inside a "bubble world" where everything that exists is "perfect". Which is sad because they never learn to grow emotionally in life.

I believe that Maria is a blessing to me. She teaches me something every day. Thanks for your radio show.

Love and Light!                                                                                                                                                              Camille and Family                                                                                                                                                          -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------     

Shane

It was very special to meet you and I'm looking forward for working with you. The way you just joined Alex, and got him to be calm when he was crying, gave me chills to watch. You have been obviously placed on this earth to work with our special children. I see that you really see the best in them. We are lucky and blessed to have been referred to you....

Maria and family

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Thanks so much for sharing you with the rest of us. It was truly a treasure. I look forward to working with you in the future( so of course I will be working with you in the future!)J

 Priscilla

Women In Need, New York, NY

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Shane it special education week, so I wanted to thank you on behalf of all the great things you have done for my son and family and for all the children you have worked with!!!! Thank you for ur dedication and everything you do!!!!! - Natalie parent of Gabriel (3 years old)

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Good morning Shane,

I'm reviewing  yesterday's in-service training evaluations and I must say all our homemakers loved your presentation. They all rated your presentation "Excellent".

I'm so happy you will be presenting for us again on April 19. I will email you close to the date to reconfirm.

Thank you again for helping us reach our training goals!!!

 

Than you,

 

FNC

Training Coordinator

The Children’s Aid Society

Homemaker Services

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Bonding Basket Winner. This lovely basket arrived today while I was at work. My babysitter sent me a message telling me that I got a package in the mail and that it smelled so good she wanted to eat it. LOL I couldn't wait to get home and open it up. 

An adorable little basket filled with goodies is what I found and she... was right it did smell scrumptious. No sooner than I got the box open the boys were grabbing for the two streamers they played with them up until dinner. While they were occupied I delved further into the basket. Bubbles, always a crowd pleaser here were tucked away before the children saw them. We will use those later.

A beautiful pyramid pineapple orchid candle that smells good enough to eat and is almost too pretty to burn. A small votive that is a lovely scent though I am not sure what the scent is. We burned this when while we bathed the children. The kids loved the colorful foam sponge and I loved the Muladhara soap. I used to make my own soap so I appreciate a good bar of handmade vegan soap. It feels good to use real soap instead of the detergent that passes for soap in the department store. I bathed the children and let them play in the tub for a bit while I relaxed and enjoyed the candle.

After I got the children out of the tub I toweled them off and took them to the bed. I said the affirmation included with the basket. I decided to try the head massager that was also included in the basket. I have had one of these myself and I loved it. My 3 yr old tolerated it but my 22 month old was another story, I think it tickles him too much. He just can't stand it. I will hold on to this until they are a bit older and they might appreciate it more. My older children always loved their heads scratched and rubbed. They still do but these two just don't seem to care for it.

Next we sprayed some of the Organic Lavender around the room and in the bed. I took the Brahmi oil, included in the basket, massaged their feet as instructed. This seemed to be very relaxing to them and they both liked it, despite the fact they are ticklish on their feet. We settled into bed and after some snuggles and play they were ready to go to sleep. I nursed the 22 month hold while the 3 yr old was snuggled up next to us. They are resting well. I will let you know how they sleep tonight. The three year old usually wakes up several times during the night. He is a restless sleeper.

All in all the basket is a hit not just with the kids but with mom as well. You should really think about marketing a similar product to Stressed Moms. The candles are wonderful and the massage oil is fantastic. The boys may have to share with mom. =D

Thank you again

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Wow, wow, wow. I attend as many free trainings as I can, I hand out flyers from RCSN whenever I see parents on the train having trouble. Today I dragged a Mom and I'm glad her first workshop was yours. You speak like I hear at Church! You are an angel and keep up doing what you do best!

Love,
Rasheeda

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